Monthly Archives: May 2012
Was reading about a quote from Forrest Gump, when good ol’ Tom Hanks delivers the lines “You know it’s funny what a young man recollects? ‘Cause I don’t remember bein’ born. I don’t recall what I got for my first Christmas and I don’t know when I went on my first outdoor picnic. But I do remember the first time I made sweet sweet love…”
this just made me smile today
So I’ve recently began to take up photography again. Here’s a quick peak at some of my nature stuff 🙂
So I had someone post in a group I run on a website called Fetlife.
This was the question:
“Bondage for the Inflexible
I dunno about the rest of you.. but being tied up, while fun, really poses some challenges! I’m small, and a little overweight. The extra flab makes suspensions difficult because there is a lot of squishy movement going on. And then, of course, there are my short limbs, and inflexibility! My legs are thick and short, and my arms are just short. It is difficult for me to even overlap my wrists behind my back. And that whole elbows together thing that some people do? No, not even a wisp of hope for that!
So! How flexible are you? Do your limbs and inflexibility pose problems when someone tries to tie you up? How frustrating is it! And how do you get around it and make it all work out anyway?”
I replied here:
Its awesome that you start this discussion cuz I was actually just talking to someone about this.
Ive been doing rope work as a bottom for over a year.
I love pushing the hardest suspensions, really going overboard, but I am very limited when it comes to my lower back.
I have a scoliosis in my lower back. (Hunchback disease) for those who don’t know.
This limits me greatly for upward facing supsensions or for anything that bends me backwards in half.
I have been slowly working at stretching and pushing myself in this regard but scoliosis does not ever go away. Right now mine is dormant, but may not remain that way.
I may be skinny and such and blah blah but I have a different sort of limitation I guess. I get frustrated to tears some days when I just can’t do what I want to do.
It makes me angry some days and I feel stupid cuz I just can’t make my body do things.
Ive been teaching myself acceptance and patience with this and it’s been extremely difficult.
I want a fast track cure for my problem but there is not one.
I am making progress with my flexibility but there is a huge mountain in my way. It’s intimidating and daunting and makes me feel weak and inadequate when I realize how much work there is needed to ever begin to stretch myself even tiny incriments.
I adore bondage and I when I get limitations it makes me extremely sad.
I am also very hard on myself always have been so that doesn’t help anything.
But it all takes time I suppose. This may be one of those things I’ll never get past. That’s probably the worst part of fighting it. >_<